It’s no secret that online dating can be a bit of a minefield. You’ve got to know what to say, how to say it, and when to stop saying it.
One of the most common mistakes people make when writing online dating messages is that they don’t say anything at all. If you’re not saying anything, how are you supposed to make a good impression?
I’m going to share with you some of the biggest mistakes I see people make in their messages. I’ll also give you some tips on how to avoid them.
I know that this may seem like a lot to take in at once, but I promise you it will be worth it in the long run!
## Not Saying Anything at All
This is probably the biggest mistake you can make when it comes to online dating. When you write a message, you need to say something. It could be as simple as “hi” or “hello”, or it could be something more specific like “I like your profile picture.”
The point is that you have to say SOMETHING in your message. Otherwise, you’re just wasting everyone’s time, including your own. You don’t want to be the guy or girl who sends a message and then doesn’t say a single word. That’s lame, and it’s not going to make you stand out in any way.
It’s much better to say a little something than to say nothing at all.’
Don’t worry, I’ll give you a few tips on what you can say in your messages. You’ll be surprised at how easy it is to come up with a few things to say. I’m sure you’ll come up a lot of ideas on your own, but here are a few ideas to get you started:
‘Hi, my name is and I live in . I am looking for someone to have a good time with.’
‘I’d like to meet someone who is looking for the same things in a relationship that I am. I like to have fun, and I’d love to find someone who likes to do the same. I also like to travel, so if you have any ideas where we could go together, let me know.’
‘What do you like to do for fun?’
‘How about you? What’s your favorite thing to do in your free time? What are you looking for in a partner? What do you want to get out of a relationship? Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help you find your perfect match.’
These are just a few examples of what you could say in a message. There are a lot more, but these are a good place to start.
The key is to make your message short and sweet. Don’t ramble on and on about yourself. Instead, focus on the other person and what they’re looking for. You can always add more details to your message later, but you can’t go back and change what you said in your first message. It’s best to keep it short and to the point.
If you’ve never written a message before, you might want to start with something simple like the ones I’ve listed above. Once you get the hang of it, you can start to add a little more detail to your messages, but for now, stick with the basics.
You’ll notice that I didn’t include anything about yourself in the messages above. This is because I want you to focus on what the other guy or gal is saying in their message, not on what they are saying about themselves.
Think about it this way: if you were talking to someone in real life, would you be interested in what they had to say about themselves? Of course not! You’d be more interested in the things they were saying about you.
That’s how it should be in an online dating message, too. You want to make sure that your message is saying something about the person, not something about yourself.’
The best way to do this is to keep your messages short, sweet, and focused on the person you’d want to meet.
Here’s an example of a message I wrote for a guy:
‘Hey, I saw your profile and I wanted to let you know that I think you are a great guy. I would love to get to know you better.’
You can see that I focused on what he was saying, not what I was saying. I made sure that my message was about him, and not about me.
Another thing to keep in mind when you write your messages is to be sure that you are being genuine. If your messages are full of flattery, it will come across as insincere.
Instead, try to be as genuine as you can be. If someone says something nice about you, be sure to thank them. If they ask you a question, answer it as honestly as possible.
Remember, the more genuine you are, the better your chances of getting a response.’
I hope these tips will help you write better messages in the future. Good luck, and have fun on your online dating journey!
I wish you the best of luck in your search for that special someone, and if you ever have any questions or comments about online dating, feel free to leave them in the comments section below.’
Thanks for reading, and enjoy the rest of your day!
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